Many people like to judge others, that’s a fact. As much as you want all people to be good and mind their business, some prefer observing other people’s lives. Many times, the urge to point fingers comes from a self-frustration, so you should not take it personally. But even still, words can be hurtful sometimes, and it seems much easier to focus on the one negative comment despite having one hundred positive ones.
Do you want to stop focusing on the positive side of your life and stop thinking about people who judge you for your blog? Here are some ways to deal with people who don’t mind their own business.
- Make the Difference Between Constructive Criticism and Disrespect
When someone has something negative to say, it can go two ways: they either tell you what you did wrong and tell you how to fix it or flat-out insult you. The latter is not something you should accept at all. That’s the type of comment who doesn’t really bring anything valuable into your life and only decreases your self-esteem.
Constructive criticism, on the other hand, is meant to help you improve and become even better at what you do in the future. Make the difference between the two, and you’ll have a much better time embracing judgment when it comes to your blog.
- Your Opinion Matters the Most
Someone doesn’t agree with you – so what? You don’t have to change your opinion to match theirs. At the end of the day, you are your own best friend, so what you think matters the most to you. Why let someone else’s thoughts destroy your confidence? Stand up for what you believe in and accept the fact that people with different views will always arise. You just have to be brave enough to stand for your values.
- Be Thankful for Every Comment
Once you learn that things are not as bad as you think, you’ll be able to embrace everything with a positive attitude, even negative comments. Blogs are found by all kinds of people, and having some who can’t talk in a nice, respectful manner is not impossible. This is the internet, sadly.
But if you adopt an attitude of gratitude, you will have a better time accepting what is coming your way and moving on. No matter how bad a comment on your blog is – express how thankful you are. This way, you’ll become a beautiful person and a role model.
- Learn that People Don’t Think About You As Much As You Think
You might dwell on things for very long. It’s easy, after all. But do you think the person who criticized your blog or your that article you worked hard for is thinking about you every minute of the day? A person has so many thoughts during one day alone that it’s hard to keep track of them. You were a mere thought in a pool of endless ones, so don’t let the criticism they left in a blog comment make you think they have a personal vendetta against you. It’s not that deep.
- Focus on Positive Things
As cliché as this sounds, it’s actually true. You’ll have a much better time focusing on the positive stuff than replaying the same judgmental words in your head over and over again. Chances are, if you work hard for your content, you have more praise comments than critiques. As such, channel all of your energy on the love you receive instead, and you’ll blossom.
Did your blog happen to get judged? Don’t worry, it’s not the first and won’t be the last blog to get this treatment. All that matters is to handle it well and not take it to heart, and your self-esteem won’t have to suffer.